One thing that is always left out in a discussion like this is the important relevance of our first few pre- cognitive years. During this time of foundational learning, if we are responded to as nature intended, we learn to trust that we will be given what we need, learn to trust our own knowing, learn to initiate for ourselves. We are l…
One thing that is always left out in a discussion like this is the important relevance of our first few pre- cognitive years. During this time of foundational learning, if we are responded to as nature intended, we learn to trust that we will be given what we need, learn to trust our own knowing, learn to initiate for ourselves. We are learning this in our bodies, not in our heads. When our cognition matures, what we learned in our bodies is still there but it is hidden, and we are ripe for giving up our power to these tragic guys because we don't trust our own knowing. Blaming others for the situation we are in may be partlalky true, but the only way to empower ourselves is by looking inside ourselves and see why we want what we want and respond the way we do.......Why do we always look outside ourselves? A wonderful book, Gabor Mate's 'The Myth of Normal', discusses this process both scientifically and the social implications for it.
Flynn, thank you for posting this very important comment!!!! Most of us get so screwed up during early childhood that we have no idea why we think what we think, why we feel what we feel... we think it's our smart brains but it's really a lot more than that. The good news, we have a capacity to heal in earnest and be dignified!!
One thing that is always left out in a discussion like this is the important relevance of our first few pre- cognitive years. During this time of foundational learning, if we are responded to as nature intended, we learn to trust that we will be given what we need, learn to trust our own knowing, learn to initiate for ourselves. We are learning this in our bodies, not in our heads. When our cognition matures, what we learned in our bodies is still there but it is hidden, and we are ripe for giving up our power to these tragic guys because we don't trust our own knowing. Blaming others for the situation we are in may be partlalky true, but the only way to empower ourselves is by looking inside ourselves and see why we want what we want and respond the way we do.......Why do we always look outside ourselves? A wonderful book, Gabor Mate's 'The Myth of Normal', discusses this process both scientifically and the social implications for it.
Flynn, thank you for posting this very important comment!!!! Most of us get so screwed up during early childhood that we have no idea why we think what we think, why we feel what we feel... we think it's our smart brains but it's really a lot more than that. The good news, we have a capacity to heal in earnest and be dignified!!
Yes, this gels with a series of articles I am writing about the role of the development of heathly personal boundaries https://garysharpe.substack.com/p/personal-boundaries-and-their-violations