When Your Loved One Gets Hypnotized
How to deal with pain?
This story is an impromptu sharing of my personal experience with this kind of plot and a reaction to the video that has been going around this morning, with a few people reaching out to me for thoughts. I am not going to give any energy to gossip, I am not going to even name the players, it’s against my core beliefs to take advantage of drama and turn human pain into a televised court house, screw the cheap drama clicks. If you know, you know, the scenario is common, there has been no lack of suffering brought upon by not-so-well-intended hypnotists through the good-heated but temporarily baited hypnotized. The entire point of this story is that even if we find ourselves in horrible pain, we are not victims, and the Creator is smiling at us, waiting for us to remember that we are full participants of this world, that our job is to find solutions for this time and heal ourselves so that our prayers are more effective, that there is time to grow from uncertainty and time to be loved and healed. Please forgive the imperfect wording, this is a raw topic and I want to use the right words to describe things that are hard to describe with words.
Poisoned soup
When your loved one starts acting like someone has poisoned their soup, it hurts. Oh, it hurts.
Feeling hurt by it is a natural reaction. It’s a natural reaction to feel wounded, shocked, to dive deep into the wound, to bring in similar feelings from the past, and to throw a massive pain fest. And to scream, and scream, and scream.
In the moment, it may feel like the only options emotionally available are either to blame yourself (because surely, if you were good, such a thing would never happen to you) or to condemn the hypnotized (because surely, if they were good, they would have never done such a thing). This is an untrue dichotomy! It makes sense on its logical face but not looking for a third way just prolongs the pain. The third way is the way up. The way up is through prayer for answers—harmonious answers—and for healing in a mysterious way.
Why?
I believe that the loving spiritual forces allow for that very painful situation so that we learn a new way, a way that brings us closer to our true nature, a way that we possibly have never known in our prior lives, a way that puts us in touch with our soul, our connection to the Creator, our love, our love-rooted power. They allow for it not to punish us and not to torture us but because they know that once we deal with it, we’ll know why. (A caveat here is that the world is an extremely unbalanced state, we are dealing with challenges of betrayal and isolation that people typically didn’t have to deal with in traditional society where the entire village would usually get together to solve problems. We are dignified participants in Co-Creation, God is cheering for our success and healing, and by finding solutions that bring healing and joy to the extremely traumatized people in this broken world, we do God’s work.)
My understanding of why we sometimes have to deal with this situation is because we carry hidden trauma that is sitting mostly undisturbed, impacting our way of thinking, obstructing our development in a stealth mode—like a hidden parasite—and so the loving spirits allow for us to find ourselves in a situation that brings the problem to the forefront, that makes the chronic spiritual obstruction acute, a situation in which we see it face to face and just have to tackle it head on.
My experience with that scenario has been that at some point, the pain fest becomes so much that you face the fact that you either find an alternative way or die. And then we pray for real solutions, not just pain-reliever solutions but real solutions, And then we grow. And then, I think, we also send healing energy to the hypnotized, which we can only do effectively when we have dealt with our trauma, when we have dealt with our own obstructions, and become more effective in helping those who may benefit from our help.
Judgement doesn’t help in the long run
Being human comes with individual strengths and individual tender spots. It is natural to feel more even-headed when it comes to resolving the problems of strangers and less even-headed when the painful experience is personal, close to home.
For that reason, when the people who become hypnotized are not in our immediate circles, staying even-headed is easier because we are not that impacted. When it’s friends, it’s more difficult. When it’s someone in our most intimate circle, it’s unbearable.
But in terms of spiritual direction, the direction is always upward, and it’s best to decline the temptation to judge beyond the immediate screams to God to please fix it fairly. Screams are natural, taking it beyond the screams for the restoration of a fair balance is an actual trap.
Judgement is best avoided not for any sort of moralistic reason and not because someone lofty is saying to not judge—but because like any emotion, judgement is an energy that comes with its specific properties, and one of its properties is to create obstructions to healing. It’s an energy that provides some relief and numbs the most acute pain but it obstructs the pathway that would lead to the ultimate destination of healing. It prolongs the journey that leads to the healing for the wounded, and possibly the healing of the hypnotized, too.
By the way, I am of a strong opinion that when people who don’t impact us super-directly fall prey to hypnotists and act badly, we are in the position to pray very effectively, and our most productive and spiritually useful choice is to give energy to healing, to pray for their healing with love and respect for their souls, to ask the Creator to send away the enemies and heal everything in a way that makes them their best selves and heals the world, too—not to turn it into a courthouse or gossip about their fall. I feel strongly about it, I stand by it, in the course of the past four years I dealt with plenty of this nonsense and I made it a point to send my energy toward healing and not toward pain. And this is not because I am any sort of smart, this is simply because I know that if one chooses to act on pain, there is no end to it. If we want the pain to stop, we need to actively seek healing, healing is the only point of pain.
The purpose is healing, yes, it’s true, and no, it’s not a talking point!
Healing is a mysterious process that comes from the spirit world. Our job is to desire it, seek it, ask for it, ask to be guided to think, feel, speak and act in a way that supports our sweetest healing, and our highest good. It is our job to ask for the loving spiritual forces to resolve the conflict in a way that is fair by God (the universe, loving spiritual forces, however you pray), in a way that kisses our heart very purely, in a way that makes us happy and to our sweetest heart’s desire, and that helps us walk our highest destiny with minimal suffering and with maximum joy. It is our job to ask the Creator to deliver the best kind of healing to each party that will resolve the entire situation sweetly, that we turn pain into new understanding, stronger love.
At the moment, my best understanding is this: I think that the scenario of being betrayed by the hypnotized is a place where two paths meet with the purpose of healing: the path of a person who needs to heal the wound that expresses itself as self-sacrifice and the path of a person who needs to heal the wound that expresses itself as self-protecting war. In the process, the former learns self-respect, and the latter nose-dives after the initial high and then remembers the love.
Very important: I do not recommended turning one’s unique understanding of this plot into a “psychological system” of any kind, psychological systems are clutches and traps, they block healing by making people feel smart and hiding the pain behind fancy words. We are better off just figuring it out from the inside, with prayer, and not turning it into talking points.
See, there is nothing that happens without the approval of the Creator. There is nothing wrong with you. No one wants to punish you. You are good. You are good if you have made mistakes, you are good if you’ve failed, you are here now, and you have the power to accept yourself fully and lovingly and ask the Creator what it is that you need to learn.
And if you want to help anyone who is particularly important to you who is acting like a traitor zombie, ask the Creator to help you and to help them in a way that the Creator knows and to take your happiness into consideration so that you establish your position of a valid participant of this world who deserves happiness, who deserves dignity, who deserves acknowledgement, who deserves love.
Ask the Creator to resolve it fairly and wisely, with love for the good souls of you and the other person. Ask the Creator to send the enemies away fairly. Ask the Creator to bring the kind of healing that you know and that you don’t know. Hand your problem to the Creator and ask the Creator to help you understand what you need to understand in order for you to be the best and most empowered version of yourself, and ask the Creator to heal the other person in a sweet way for you.
And keep doing it until it makes sense, and still keep doing it for as long as you feel that it’s not resolved.
And if feel like your pain is too much, call for the Creator and ask to help you, make you feel loved, and to ease the pain of the challenge that you are dealing with. No one is there to punish you or to wag their finger at you for your mistakes. If you made mistakes, correct them. If you don’t know what to do, pray without pretense and tell the loving spiritual forces exactly what you feel and what you want. And remember that at all times, at all times without exception, you are loved. You are loved. You are loved. There is lots of pain in this world, you are here to find solutions for healing, and you are loved.
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I wish I could remember who originally shared your work with me so I could thank them.
Yet again you point to the bruises without blame, and instead with a clear eye on healing.
Your words are sage as ever and beautifully timed. Thank you 🙏🙏🙏
If there is one good thing to come out of this false plague, it is finally finding the path to spiritual healing. I was never one to dwell upon the importance of the Creator, and all that has been bestowed upon us, 4 years ago, but now I understand the power of prayer, especially for those who have passed and their souls might not yet be in a safe place, and for those close friends and family members who are going through their own unbelievably horrible crises (yes they are hypnotized). I will admit I am finding it hard to forgive, but maybe that will eventually happen. I try not to dwell on that disappointment and bitterness. Tessa - you always invoke love and I didn't understand at first, but now I do. Love is the strongest power. Thank you. You were there as I finally opened my eyes.