If we take a closer look at failure, we will see that failure is an illusion, that we are eternal beings created from love and for love, and that love heals all
Sorry for your loss in love. It's catastrophic to go from having a great thing going to them disappearing. Happened to me.
I was heartbroken and started to drink a lot.
She popped up a few months later and wanted me back.
I entertained the idea. I just had to know something in order to truly understand. Why did she do it?
Oy vey, it was nothing honest. She changed it a few times too... I realized that she was indeed a great woman but she lacked her own sense of self. I loved her so much and it was amazing while it lasted but as long as she didn't know why she abandoned me, I couldn't take her back, even in the casual way which she kept hinting at.
Finally, I understood why she stayed with an abusive boyfriend in the past.
She lived for others, but when I came around, I didn't use her or hurt her and it probably made her confused because she loved people by being their doormat.
Abuse is a son of a bitch PTSD to get rid of and knowing that, I forgive her and wish her well.
My heart goes out to you. I was betrayed at work and many close family and friends deserted me during the trials and tribulations experienced by the non vaxxed over the past 4 years. But thanks be to God, my wife and 2 teenaged kids stood by me. A couple of dear Christian friends stood firm as well. I was not alone during those dark days and God brought me through it. Tough times indeed, but I am full of Thanksgiving to God for providing those key people when in needed them. I pray your healing continues and that you are blessed by the Lord above with His very presence. God bless you in Christ, this holy season. 🙏🏻 Thank you for sharing this heart rending testimony.
know that you are in my prayers and thoughts as you are moving out from the darkness of betrayal.
and i wish you the very best of all the christmas means outside of current commercialised debasement: it is the movement out of darkness into light and with that movement between the two we are able to embrace both: to live only under the light looking for the keys to life is false. to stay in the dark is to similarly deny the key to life is the life. we are, we experience, the two and once they are seen as a pair, then the pain will be without it being debilitation and death.
and know that your experiences shared of both light and dark, and the hope you express struggling against despair have indeed been a powerful torch of light for me and, i am sure, many many more.
all the best with what is changing. everything changes! with peace, respect, love and exuberant joy.
The universe both expands and accelerates due to Love expanding in it’s infinite Love Triangle. Of perpetual exchanges of Love. Misuse of free will confines one into an Ego Worshipping circular logical black hole. Like those Ghost Buster demon traps. Unless we crack one open in selfishness. And learn from that failure Not to open the selfish traps again.
Pray it forward, light always defeats darkness. Even if you are stuck inside a black hole and turn on the light. It defeats darkness relatively. It just can’t escape to contaminate the rest of the universe expanding in Love. Because True Love knows no darkness.
For reasons too much to go into, I don't know what it's like to be so close to someone. Some time ago I spent a full year grieving this missing link of human development, to the point of experiencing uncontrollable somatic convulsions. And though that is sad, I also have the perspective of knowing people who had it far far worse than I did.
I hope the person who ghosted you reads your piece, although that's an outcome far less important than the fact that you wrote it. Your beautiful story will touch many hearts, even if not the one that sparked it.
A piece of poetry comes to mind: "'Tis better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all."
The human race as a whole has been and still is going through these steps of learning/growth. We are nearing the end of this journey. A rude awakening will teach us that there is only one way to inhabit this planet, and that is by following the creator's instructions. We can not go against the laws of God and the universe and expect a good outcome. Jesus had said. Do unto others as you would have done to you. So with that simple rule, there would be peace on earth. No, I am not preaching, just trying to touch on reality.
Years ago I ran into a rough spot in my marriage and my wife asked me to speak to her therapist. And in the process learned so much about myself. He reminded me again and again that in everything there is an opportunity to learn and grow. The more challenging it is, the greater the possibilities that surface. So as the Grateful Dead always said, Just Keep Truckin’ on and on. This is all a big movie and we are riding through it.
In one stretch things got so damned hard it became a difficult task for me to eat a meal, or to even take a shower. Lasted a few weeks and literally knocked me on my ass. But I endured and was able to begin to feel joy and gratitude again. And it was such a wonderful moment. Probably worth the pain and the sleepless nights and that numbing fear I endured. And while diving this song came on the radio.
Abandonment is really hard and can leave a lot of scars. I hope you find your way through it. And you never know what might come around the bend to clear the air on the other side.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Jeff!! I have found my way through it, I feel pretty happy. I think I didn't convey that part clearly enough. I posted it to cheer up those of us who are going through something sad now, given the holidays and all. I am beginning to suspect it came up gloomier than I wanted to? I am Russian. it could be that Russian holiday cheer is more philosophical than the American one? I don't know!!! :))) Happy holidays!!
Sorry for your loss Tessa ! I am glad that you have found yourself, although we have never met in person there is a place with love in my heart for you ❤️.
I view all failures as learning experiences. Although in this case I’m not sure yours was a failure. Another’s choice is your failure? Failure of expectations? Failure in judgement? Thats sounds like something I’d blame myself for. But you were just being you. Unfortunately trusting souls project on to others, assuming mutual agreement or understanding. And are often blindsided. It hurts, but do we trust less? Your approach to make a mental note and move on with love seems the right course. Love puts an end to that experience for each of you and readies the next. Wishing you the best this holiday.
"Things" happen in life. Even when everything if seemingly in harmony, things, unexpected and sometimes crushing. From these things, we are supposed to learn, then grow stronger. When we allow ourselves to be overrun with emotion, we witness unbearable pain. Control of our emotion should be from the heart. It cannot happen from the brain. When we admit that we do not control things, we escape from darkness. We are beings of light and we come close to the Creator when we stay in his light.
Many people have had a similar thing happen in the last few years. We have grown dependent on an object, attached to a concept of being cared for. I am talking about government. We have given up our place in the light for a bit of "love". We had sacrificed our sovereignty for some artificial security. When this relationship fell apart, when we learned that we were giving, but that government was only taking, we denied the truth and we fell apart. Now, we are in control, at least control of the raw emotion. We have become wiser and are getting stronger. We are moving from the darkness to the light. As long as we know who we are and stay true to ourselves, we win. We become happy. We become centered.
Thank you, freedom fighter! And yes, understanding who we are (which is a life-long process and probably doesn't end after we pass, either) is the necessary foundation for everything else! happy holidays!
Thank you Cheerio! Growth is indeed the most productive trajectory. This entire story is written as a way to hopefully point to the light at the end of the tunnel for anyone who is feeling abandoned during this "holiday season." Sometimes in the midst of it it is is not clearly visible but it's there!!
Wow! Thank you Tessa. So present and so real. I had that gift of pain and understand. Made me stronger eventually. And I know I’m eternal. Much love, me.
Thank you Sandy!! Hugs to you. I am not sure pain is a gift but it can certainly be transformed into a deeper understanding, at which point the pain is no longer there!
Tessa remember that your capacity for despondency is matched by your capacity for bliss. that is my prayer for you now because nobody deserves bliss more than you do. it might be around the corner.
Little by Little we get rid of what is not us.
Little by Little we find pieces of us.
One step at a time.
Sorry for your loss in love. It's catastrophic to go from having a great thing going to them disappearing. Happened to me.
I was heartbroken and started to drink a lot.
She popped up a few months later and wanted me back.
I entertained the idea. I just had to know something in order to truly understand. Why did she do it?
Oy vey, it was nothing honest. She changed it a few times too... I realized that she was indeed a great woman but she lacked her own sense of self. I loved her so much and it was amazing while it lasted but as long as she didn't know why she abandoned me, I couldn't take her back, even in the casual way which she kept hinting at.
Finally, I understood why she stayed with an abusive boyfriend in the past.
She lived for others, but when I came around, I didn't use her or hurt her and it probably made her confused because she loved people by being their doormat.
Abuse is a son of a bitch PTSD to get rid of and knowing that, I forgive her and wish her well.
I am sorry you had to deal with that, Rob, and it sounds like you transformed your experience into something good. Hugs!
My heart goes out to you. I was betrayed at work and many close family and friends deserted me during the trials and tribulations experienced by the non vaxxed over the past 4 years. But thanks be to God, my wife and 2 teenaged kids stood by me. A couple of dear Christian friends stood firm as well. I was not alone during those dark days and God brought me through it. Tough times indeed, but I am full of Thanksgiving to God for providing those key people when in needed them. I pray your healing continues and that you are blessed by the Lord above with His very presence. God bless you in Christ, this holy season. 🙏🏻 Thank you for sharing this heart rending testimony.
hola, tessa.
know that you are in my prayers and thoughts as you are moving out from the darkness of betrayal.
and i wish you the very best of all the christmas means outside of current commercialised debasement: it is the movement out of darkness into light and with that movement between the two we are able to embrace both: to live only under the light looking for the keys to life is false. to stay in the dark is to similarly deny the key to life is the life. we are, we experience, the two and once they are seen as a pair, then the pain will be without it being debilitation and death.
and know that your experiences shared of both light and dark, and the hope you express struggling against despair have indeed been a powerful torch of light for me and, i am sure, many many more.
all the best with what is changing. everything changes! with peace, respect, love and exuberant joy.
🙏❤️🧘♂️🙌☯️🙌🧘♂️❤️🙏
Thank you, Guy!!! I am always glad to hear from you, and we shall talk very soon!! Thank you xo
The universe both expands and accelerates due to Love expanding in it’s infinite Love Triangle. Of perpetual exchanges of Love. Misuse of free will confines one into an Ego Worshipping circular logical black hole. Like those Ghost Buster demon traps. Unless we crack one open in selfishness. And learn from that failure Not to open the selfish traps again.
Pray it forward, light always defeats darkness. Even if you are stuck inside a black hole and turn on the light. It defeats darkness relatively. It just can’t escape to contaminate the rest of the universe expanding in Love. Because True Love knows no darkness.
- INTO EVERY LIFE SOME pAIN MUST FALL… !!!
WE ALWAYS HAVE A CHOICE, DEATH, OR, LIFE…!!
CHOSE LIFE…!!!
GOD SAID THAT HE IS THE TRUTH, THE LIFE, LOVE.
Bless your immortal soul Tessa.
For reasons too much to go into, I don't know what it's like to be so close to someone. Some time ago I spent a full year grieving this missing link of human development, to the point of experiencing uncontrollable somatic convulsions. And though that is sad, I also have the perspective of knowing people who had it far far worse than I did.
I hope the person who ghosted you reads your piece, although that's an outcome far less important than the fact that you wrote it. Your beautiful story will touch many hearts, even if not the one that sparked it.
A piece of poetry comes to mind: "'Tis better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all."
The human race as a whole has been and still is going through these steps of learning/growth. We are nearing the end of this journey. A rude awakening will teach us that there is only one way to inhabit this planet, and that is by following the creator's instructions. We can not go against the laws of God and the universe and expect a good outcome. Jesus had said. Do unto others as you would have done to you. So with that simple rule, there would be peace on earth. No, I am not preaching, just trying to touch on reality.
Years ago I ran into a rough spot in my marriage and my wife asked me to speak to her therapist. And in the process learned so much about myself. He reminded me again and again that in everything there is an opportunity to learn and grow. The more challenging it is, the greater the possibilities that surface. So as the Grateful Dead always said, Just Keep Truckin’ on and on. This is all a big movie and we are riding through it.
In one stretch things got so damned hard it became a difficult task for me to eat a meal, or to even take a shower. Lasted a few weeks and literally knocked me on my ass. But I endured and was able to begin to feel joy and gratitude again. And it was such a wonderful moment. Probably worth the pain and the sleepless nights and that numbing fear I endured. And while diving this song came on the radio.
https://youtu.be/zaNFwT8p7mc?si=1H42fN2SVzWfd_to
Abandonment is really hard and can leave a lot of scars. I hope you find your way through it. And you never know what might come around the bend to clear the air on the other side.
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Jeff!! I have found my way through it, I feel pretty happy. I think I didn't convey that part clearly enough. I posted it to cheer up those of us who are going through something sad now, given the holidays and all. I am beginning to suspect it came up gloomier than I wanted to? I am Russian. it could be that Russian holiday cheer is more philosophical than the American one? I don't know!!! :))) Happy holidays!!
“I have found my way through it, I feel pretty happy.”
😎
Sorry for your loss Tessa ! I am glad that you have found yourself, although we have never met in person there is a place with love in my heart for you ❤️.
I view all failures as learning experiences. Although in this case I’m not sure yours was a failure. Another’s choice is your failure? Failure of expectations? Failure in judgement? Thats sounds like something I’d blame myself for. But you were just being you. Unfortunately trusting souls project on to others, assuming mutual agreement or understanding. And are often blindsided. It hurts, but do we trust less? Your approach to make a mental note and move on with love seems the right course. Love puts an end to that experience for each of you and readies the next. Wishing you the best this holiday.
It is better to not grasp onto hopeful projections for the future, because our projections are seldom realized just-as-projected in life.
Projecting unavoidable doom is often similar.
;-}
I'm sorry about the lost human.
;-(
"Things" happen in life. Even when everything if seemingly in harmony, things, unexpected and sometimes crushing. From these things, we are supposed to learn, then grow stronger. When we allow ourselves to be overrun with emotion, we witness unbearable pain. Control of our emotion should be from the heart. It cannot happen from the brain. When we admit that we do not control things, we escape from darkness. We are beings of light and we come close to the Creator when we stay in his light.
Many people have had a similar thing happen in the last few years. We have grown dependent on an object, attached to a concept of being cared for. I am talking about government. We have given up our place in the light for a bit of "love". We had sacrificed our sovereignty for some artificial security. When this relationship fell apart, when we learned that we were giving, but that government was only taking, we denied the truth and we fell apart. Now, we are in control, at least control of the raw emotion. We have become wiser and are getting stronger. We are moving from the darkness to the light. As long as we know who we are and stay true to ourselves, we win. We become happy. We become centered.
Thank you, freedom fighter! And yes, understanding who we are (which is a life-long process and probably doesn't end after we pass, either) is the necessary foundation for everything else! happy holidays!
Born at the Right Time:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x2rng43hdEw
Through pain and betrayal the only option is growth...
sent with a hug filled with love...
Thank you Cheerio! Growth is indeed the most productive trajectory. This entire story is written as a way to hopefully point to the light at the end of the tunnel for anyone who is feeling abandoned during this "holiday season." Sometimes in the midst of it it is is not clearly visible but it's there!!
It's visible. :)
Wow! Thank you Tessa. So present and so real. I had that gift of pain and understand. Made me stronger eventually. And I know I’m eternal. Much love, me.
Thank you Sandy!! Hugs to you. I am not sure pain is a gift but it can certainly be transformed into a deeper understanding, at which point the pain is no longer there!
Tessa remember that your capacity for despondency is matched by your capacity for bliss. that is my prayer for you now because nobody deserves bliss more than you do. it might be around the corner.
Hugs!!! Thank you, and happy holidays!!
♥️
Back at ya. Happy holidays, beautiful soul!
So funny, that heart came out black but it was red on my 'phone.
N, xo
It is red on my screen! You know what, doesn't matter. I know you meant it to be love, and it is love. xoxoxo
🤓